What causes stubbornness?
Many times, we will find some “sorrowful characters” around us.
They have one thing in common, and although they don’t overlap stupidly, they often surround themselves with something that is absolutely unhelpful and cannot extricate themselves.
No matter how the relatives, friends, and onlookers persuaded them, they were always obsessed and even found many naive reasons to deceive themselves. Until one day, when he was tortured and finally relieved, he suddenly woke up and repentedand.
The popular science magazine Big Technology recently introduced this phenomenon that is commonplace in our daily lives.
So why does this psychological problem exist and how does it affect people’s lives?
The author expected to interview several experts.
For some reason, obsessed and obsessed fans are obsessed with obsession. “Indulgedness means that people cannot distinguish objectively and subjectively, and reality and assumptions in the cognitive process.
If we control this kind of existing experience over reality and overly solidify it, we will have obsession.
Cao Fenyuan, a psychological counselor at Huaxia Psychological Network, said that people themselves have their own perception of things, and their attitude to events is determined by their own evaluation, and this evaluation depends on their own experience.
In addition, American psychologist Leon-Festinger explained that this is caused by cognitive dissonance when explaining the psychology of obsession.
He believes that people will encounter situations where beliefs and reality conflict, which will lead to cognitive imbalance. At this time, people will feel uncomfortable and try to find ways to restore psychological balance.
There are two ways to restore balance. One is to acknowledge the facts and the other is to find a reason to maintain balance.
It is what we call cognitive dissonance-a psychological state experienced when you make a decision to take action or encounter a belief, emotion, or value that is different from what you originally expected.
Li Ling of Beijing Huiyuan Psychology and Education Research Center believes that cognitive dissonance may lead to obsession, but obsession may not necessarily be caused by cognitive dissonance.
There are many reasons that lead to obsession. First, the mindset. The habit of knowing things in the past may affect the way in which things are recognized later, and will not change with time and events. This is manifested by people’s stubbornness.It is because of the protection of the heart that sometimes people may not be able to recognize the objectivity of things, but it is only because of the self-defense mechanism that they cause people to insist on their views.
This means that when we persuade others, the language must be appropriate. If it is not appropriate, the two will gradually evolve because of the words, not because of the matter itself. Furthermore, some are caused by cognitive dissonance, which means that a girl was deeply trapped.In a love scam, others can tell at a glance that she is lying to her, but the girl insists that the man loves her.
This is another type of stubbornness.
Is obsessiveness common? Cao Fenyuan believes that everyone will have obsessive mentality, which is very common.
People rely on their own experience in cognition, subjective influence, and sometimes cognition changes objective facts.
It’s like saying “bystanders are clear,” because people who are bystanders don’t have the preconceived experience and emotions and can look at things more objectively, so they are “clear” to a certain extent.
In real life, there are many such examples.
A lady said: Sometimes I ‘m too confident and I think I can do everything, so I feel like I can do everything in the future.
At the same time, I thought, “You can’t say no, I want to give it a try and prove to you that you are all wrong.”
Others said: I do n’t know why it ‘s like that, but I feel like I have n’t tried something, and I really want to try it.
Sometimes others have said it, and I feel that I may fail, but I have a faint hope of success, and I have a deep desire to try it.
How to adjust the mentality of obsessed and obsessed Li Ling said that the influence of obsessed and obsessed on people depends on its subjective definition.
If you insist on being right, then its positive impact will be greater, sometimes success and stubbornness are only one step away.
However, if you gradually solidify your thinking, it will lead to stagnation and inability to innovate.
If it is stubbornness due to self-protection, then the greater self cannot become an objective recognition of things, but simply escapes with a taste.
She said that we should use an open mind to analyze the advantages and disadvantages.
For the impact that is considered, distinguish between the benefits and the disadvantages, and then the impact will be alleviated.
If you simply evade, inferiority or communicate with everyone else, the impact of such things will increase.
Cao Fenyuan hopes that in the process of cognition, people must recognize reality and assumptions, and be subjective and objective.
She pointed out that encountering things may be rational, reminding herself that emotions cause deviations in her cognition; anything is wrong to others.
Don’t associate people with things, don’t take stereotypes to know.
Because of cognitive disorientation, Li Ling said that there are three ways to adjust: one is to change or deny one factor of cognition, the second is to readjust two cognitive factors, and the third is to add another one to alleviate thisPainful factors.
If obsession is very serious, you should go to a counselor.